This question has always raged in my pikian while still a student. I pondered try to find the answer. Until one day, I heard a lecture that was delivered by the late KH. EZ. Mutaqien, chairman of MUI West Java. Apparently, what he delivered exactly what I ponder over this. Then, I try to ask the opinion of some friends of individuals, from various strata of education. From start to students who are smart, educated taxi driver until junior high or high school. There are some answers that I can conclude.
The first answer is why they have to get married because they want to have children. It answers the most. This answer is consistent with that in sunahkan in Islam. The purpose of most people after getting married did want to have children. Moreover, in some parts of Indonesia are expecting offspring. Suppose the Batak tribe, wanted male offspring. As the successor to the clan.
There is also the answer reasons for wanting to marry together two great families. Usually the reason was used by the ancient nobility who do not want their offspring "poisoned" by the blood of the common people. They want their royal blood is maintained. But, there is also a reason for closer kinship.
Another reason is pretty ridiculous, why they should get married because they want to enjoy the "heaven" of the world. The reason is of course highly correlated with sexual lust. Those who choose a reason this would not even care whether or not to have babies. Important for those who can enjoy the fun of sex with his wife.
The next reason why should get married because they are in need of a life partner. The usual reason given by people who are elderly but too late or they were already married widow or widower. For this group, no longer question the descent problem. Important that they have friends sharing or vent in a variety of issues that ease the burden of their own thoughts. I used to have a friend in the Ministry of Finance. He was a man who had established their own homes. Every night of the week she was puzzled what to do. Want to go home, no one is encountered because he has not got a wife. Finally, just spent her time off by himself.
And the last reason why I should get married is to avoid adultery. Those who choose this reason may be influenced by religious factors. Because often daydreaming can do a no-no, they chose to marry as a solution.
Of the five reasons that I can, it is true. But, all of these reasons should not be a primary goal. This can lead to regret. Basically, human nature tends to always want to achieve what he wants. Well, if these reasons are used as the primary goal, then not achieved as expected, it could be home to a mess. For example, when the main purpose is procreation, but do not get it, it may happen in the household divorce because they both want to have babies.
I have a friend who has a few years yet have children. And the wife constantly urged to consult a doctor because the wife wanted to have a child. Then the husband still does not want to see her fear of disappointing results dianosa both sides. Because the wife was eventually forced the wives follow their husbands to seek treatment, see a doctor obstetrician. It turns out from the results of the examination the doctor, the problem is in the wife's infertility.
The wife was disappointed however, my friend had promised earlier that the cause of infertility is on her side. He will divorce his wife and his wife and married mengkiklaskan with others. And he also has been unwilling to settle down with a widow who already have children so they can devote affection to his stepson.
He too suggested that the barren wives should they take the child (for fishing), where the child may be brought to the psychiatric aspects of the wife so get pregnancy. And the child should be taken still have a family relationship with the wife so that soul kinship ties are still awake. Adopted a new 8 months newborn child, thank God the wife get gift of the first pregnancy and thank God they now have a child of her own 3.
That is a reflection of a friend who I believe is very pious. The existence of barren wife does not necessarily release the desire to keep loving her and build household because of her marriage purpose is to seek the blessing of Allah alone.
For those who choose sexual satisfaction as the main reason, and it turns out after marriage do not get the satisfaction, or may experience boredom, it could be one of the spouses will be an affair to seek satisfaction from others. If it happens so, the household would fall apart.
At the hospital where I work, many women who develop cervical cancer peyakit raheem and has often left her husband removed her uterus. In fact, just the wife's doctors diagnosed with the cancer, the husband had left the wife knows where to go. There have even been conducting marriage with another woman. (Continued: Dr. Anwar Salah, SPAN)
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