God blessed my friend all yag, a title that makes a profound question, kanapa should I marry? questions that must be answered honestly, how important is the question that must be answered? and why also be answered? one of you is willing to answer it for me?
friend, Build a harmonious home life was a yearning. But of course not an easy task to achieve. Need readiness in many ways, especially in terms of religious knowledge. Something that must be owned by his wife, the husband first.
Not wrong if someone says that marriage means a new life. Because the post-marriage life is found many things that were not obtained when single. Of course, all that can be felt by those who have built mahligai household.
"I want to be with you in the shade of the science reach glorious God bless"
a story that we have to dive into the meaning ... ..
It is the story of a handsome young man who worships in choosing a prospective wife, this story can not be ascertained fact or not, but hopefully lessons in it can benefit us all, especially Muslim women who are not married may be an afterthought.
He was very handsome, obedient (Salih), well educated, his parents pressured him to get married.
They, parents, has had many proposals coming, and he has rejected all. Her parents thought, maybe there is someone else who was in his mind.
But every time his parents brought home a woman, the young man always says "he is not the man!"
The young man wants a girl who was religious and practicing his religion properly (shalihah). One night, her parents arranged a meeting for him, to meet with a girl, religious, and religious practice. On that night, the young man and a girl who brought her parents, allowed to talk, and ask each other questions to each other, as usual.
The handsome young man, allowing the girl to ask first.
The girl was asked many questions to the young man, he was asked about the boy's life, his education, his friends, his family, habits, hobbies, lifestyle, what he likes, his past, his experiences, even the size of his shoes ...
Handsome young man to answer all her questions, without tiring and politely. With a smile, she had been more than an hour, get bored, because he'd been wondering, and then asked the young man, whether he wants to ask her something?
The young man says, all right, I only have 3 questions. The girl thought excitedly, only 3 questions okay, throw.
The young man asks the first question:
Youth: Who are you most love in this world, someone who loved that no one will ever beat him?
Girl: This is an easy question, my mother. (she smiled)
Question 2
Youth: You said you read a lot of the Qur'an, can you tell me which letter you know that means?
Girl: (mendegar that the girl's face flushed and embarrassed), I do not know what it means at all, but I hope to know soon, God willing, I'm just a little busy.
Question 3
Youth: I have spoken to marry, the girls are much more beautiful than you, Why should I marry you?
Girl: (On hearing it the mad girl, she complained to her parents with anger), I do not want to marry this man, he insulted my intelligence and beauty.
And finally once again the boy's parents do not reach an agreement to marry. This time the boy's parents are very angry, and said "why did you make her angry, her family was very nice and pleasant, and they were religious like you wanted. Why do you ask (like it) to the girl? let us know ".
The young man said, First I asked him, who is the most you love? he replied, his mother. (His parents said, "what's wrong with that?") He replied, "It is not said to be Muslim, until he loves Allah and His Messenger (shalallahu'alaihi wa sallam) more than anyone else in this world". If a woman loves Allah and the Prophet (shalallahu'alaihi wa sallam) more than anyone, she will love me and respect me, and stay faithful to me, because of that love, and fear Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, and we'll share this love, because this love is greater than lust for beauty.
The young man said, then I asked, you read a lot of the Qur'an, you get to tell me the meaning of one of the letters? and he said no, because it has not had time. So I think all humans are dead except those who have knowledge. He has lived for 20 years and do not find time to seek knowledge, why do I have to marry a woman who does not know the rights and obligations, and what will she teach my children, except how to be negligent, because the woman is the Madrasah (school) and the best teachers. And a woman who has no time for Allah, will not have time for her husband.
The third question that I ask him, that much more beautiful girl from him, which has been proposed to me for marriage, why should I choose you? That's why he's complaining, angry. (The boy's parents say that it is annoying thing to say, why would you do such a thing, we must return to apologize). The youth said that the Prophet (shalallahu'alaihi wa sallam) said "do not be angry, do not be angry, do not get mad", when asked how to become pious, because anger is coming from the devil. If a woman can not control her anger with a stranger she had just met, do you think he would be able to control anger toward her husband ??
God blessed all of my best friend,
in case the above story could be a reflection for us all,
Shalalahu Prophet 'alaihi wa sallam said, which means:
"Women married for four things, [first] because of his wealth, nasabnya, her beauty, and her religion. Look for a good religion, if not then you will fell indigent ". (HR. Bukhari no. 5090, Muslims no. 1466)
"Do not marry a woman for her beauty alone, may be the undoing of the beauty. And do not you marry a woman because the sheer wealth, wealth that may be causing the vanity. But marry the woman because of her religion. The real black slave woman again flawed, but the devout is better (than the rich and beautiful woman but not religion). "
A man who wanted to marry a woman who must choose shalihah, so women must choose a righteous man.
According to Al-Qur-an, a woman who shalihah are:
فالصالحات قانتات حافظات للغيب بما حفظ الله
"... And the women who shalihah are those who obey (to Allah) and keeping away when (her husband) does not exist, because God has been keeping (me-they) ..." [An-Nisaa ': 34]
قانتات wording described by Qatada, meaning that women who obey Allah and obey her husband. [3]
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
الدنيا متاع وخير متاع الدنيا المرأة الصالحة.
"The world is jewelry, and the best of the world jewelry is a woman who shalihah." [4]
"Truly a woman is like a crooked rib.
If you let it (bent) you get a good result if you try to straighten it and then you break it. "(HR. Ath-Thahawi)
In another hadith, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
خير النساء التي تسره إذا نظر إليها وتطيعه إذا أمر ولا تخالفه في نفسها ولا مالها بما يكره.
"The best of women is a fun husband when he sees it, to obey when told her husband, and not menyelisihi himself and his wealth up with what's not to like him." [5]
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam also said:
أربع من السعادة: المرأة الصالحة, والمسكن الواسع, والجار الصالح, والمركب الهنيء, وأربع من الشقاوة: الجار السوء, والمرأة السوء, والمسكن الضيق, والمركب السوء.
"Four points is happiness; shalihah wife, spacious living areas, a good neighbor, and comfortable vehicles. And the four that is misery; evil neighbors, bad wife, cramped living quarters, and a vehicle that ugly. "[6]
(Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi)
Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'ala says
"And among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives of your kind alone, so you tend to be and feel at ease to him, and made it wakens a sense of love and affection. Verily in this is truly there are signs for a people who think. "(QS. Ar Rum: 21)
Ibn Kathir rahimahullah said in his Tafseer (3/473):
"Including the perfection of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'ala mercy to the children of Adam: He made their wives from their own kind. And grown between them "mawaddah" is love and "mercy" that affection. Because a man holding a woman to be his wife could remain because the woman he loves or because he pity and compassion against him, where he has gained the child of the woman or the woman took him to get shopping or because of the closeness between them and the reasons other than that. "
"Verily in this is truly there are signs for a people who think"
Abdullah bin Amr Ibn Ash rahimahullah mengkhabarkan that the Prophet of Allaah 'alaihi wasallam said:
"This world is the best of jewelry and women's jewelry is shalihah." (HR. Muslims)
Abu Hurairah Radiyallahu 'anhu mengkhabarkan of the Messenger of Allaah alaihi wasallam he said:
"She was married for 4 cases. Because of his wealth, offspring, beauty, and because of his religion. Choose women who have a religion, you will be happy. "(HR. Bukhari and Muslim)
The properties you select the proper woman as a wife so that he could take charge of your home and your children, educators are women of faith and morals which can help to obedient to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'ala. That remind you when you forget, to help you when you remember, take care of and watching you when you are there, take care of your possessions and honor when you are not there. He makes the pleasure when you are angry, when you obey orders and do good and dutiful to you.
Indeed, the noble woman who guarded her chastity will not boast himself in front of the treasures and beauty that belongs to him. Nor is the position and nasab (offspring).
nah that's my friend, who must be underlined ... try to see it from her ....
his good friend .. a true story that was written in the Salafi-Qilla fiksiana-kompasiana
Ratna is just an ordinary woman, her sweet, polite, noble character. It's just bad luck always happen to him, for some reason, it's just that in his heart there is always a belief that all the events that happened there will always be a silver lining. Is not God's love for those who are patient?
H-7, Ratna busy with her wedding preparations, ranging from distributed invitations to take care of all the needs of the wedding reception. Although the reception he designed with simple, he believes that marriage would rousing as his best friends promised to help enliven the reception, do not know what kind of promise that his friends, which is important invitations for friends, neighbors, and relatives of his family had scattered although not much. Affairs catering and artisan makeup, brother handles. And Ratnapun began to breathe easily.
H-2, Ratna shocked by the notice of his friends that his young bride name misprint. And then Rachael realized, so busy, he did not get to check the invitation letter. "Aduuuuuh how ya Wiiiii, help me please!" Whined to her friend Ratna Dewi. Goddess just shook his head, "Come naaa, already abysmal, just announced later marriage ceremony just in time, yet another invitation will not care about the name of your partner!" Said Dewi half soothing. "Oh well then, I'm just afraid that it would be a bad sign," Ratna said softly.
Came the D-day, the morning of the marriage ceremony party invitations Rachael began to arrive, most of which come close relatives and friends. As usual ceremony starts at 9:00, show time is at 8:40, and there is no sign of the groom entourage come. His sister Rachael has tried to contact but no reply, hp Ratna future husband is not activated. Hours has shown at 9:10, start crying Ratna, all of which come into pity. Goddess friend tried to calm him down.
"Calm down Naaaa, your brother is being followed to the Aryo, at least an hour already be doing, calm ya?"
"See Wi, what I told you about it a hunch, Ko kaan?"
"Yeah, but even that is not necessarily true, who knows Aryo impaired on the road"
"But why HPnya should be turned off anyway?"
"Never mind, positive thinking, wrote okay?"
An hour later, His sister Rachael go home, his face looks sad and confused. And Ratna have felt it, then histerislah him. Randi asked Dewi Mas her sister Rachael.
"Mas Randi, what's wrong? The Aryo why? "Asked the Goddess
"Oh God, sorry for my brother, Aryo The jerk go some where, neighbors said last night Aryo go with his family".
"What? loh why they left without giving the news? "
"Not know, his name is also a jerk", Randi replied annoyed
"Duuuh, how dong Mas? Poor old Ratna "
"Yes we have to tell him, no matter how bitter"
And indeed, when notified Ratna, Ratna fainted. Only after 15 minutes, Rachael began to sober up. Then quietly, Ratna said that the invitation should be informed. Looks like Rachael was able to master his emotions, though occasional tears he could not contain. Randi, out of the bridal chamber for the purpose of announcing the cancellation of her sister's wedding. Randi announced a new word, a strapping young boned, clean white, and handsome too, stood with a look of confidence.
"Sorry Mas Randi, I introduce Irawan friend Nino, may I speak?". Nino is his friend Randi. She attended the event invitation Randi ceremony.
"Please", Randi replied invited.
"Look Mas Randi and the audience, I think to cancel this marriage is not possible, this marriage could still be continued, as long as there is a way out"
"The way out? mean? "said Randi wonder.
"The solution is to find a replacement calaon bridegroom, if the bride and extended family do not mind me willing to become his successor", the person who named Irawan was speaking with conviction, then he said again;
"Since before I noticed the bride, my heart to feel the pain and sank, Ratna good woman and I'm sure this has been the destiny of the Almighty that my mate is here, from overnight frankly I can feel it, so I was forced to Nino invite me, I became not understand why "
All the guests were surprised, who knows what is in their minds, in amazement, did not think there would be anything like it. Most seem whispers "ick like in soap operas wrote it?" They whispered.
"Mas Randi, let me marry Ratna," Irawan said softly.
Randi then went about to talk with Ratna, Ratna said finally ready. With puffy eyes, Rachael out of the room was about to meet the prospective bridegroom.
Then Irawan said again.
"How Ratna? Will you be my wife? "
Charles nodded slowly, silently Rachael said, "O God my mate hopefully this is really a good person, who can love me and love me for what it is, even though today I'd known, I pasrahkan thee O God!"
All invited guests are happy, the face looks radiant invitation "Alhamdulillaaaaah ..." she said in unison.
Begin the ceremony smoothly with dowry money of 1 million dollars, knowing that only in the wallet Irawan, fortunately the prince would wait.
The wedding reception runs smoothly though most invitations are not aware of what is happening during the ceremony. Introduction took place at the bride and groom on the wedding chair. Everyone says that Rachael was very lucky to get Irawan, handsome man, kind, and most surprisingly turned Irawan is heir to the famous company in Jakarta. His grandmother has been long expected Irawan soon find a wife, Irawan was raised by his grandparents, and Irawan is the sole heir to his property, because the parents Irawan has been long dead. Relatives Ratna certainly feel relieved, there was a silver lining of the Aryo jerk blurred. Allah is Most Just, it is impossible to either get a pair that is not good, and it turns out that God sends destiny in a unique way. This story teaches us that we must always be patient in dealing with a problem, then God will provide a way out with ease.
really beautiful not a friend, patience is the highest peak of all the beauty ..
marry you
one of the best decisions I've made in my life
I'm always grateful for every morning I open my eyes
marry you
took in many extraordinary adventures of life
walk in faith with eyes full of hope
join hands to unite hearts reach our dreams together
build a 'home' with the warmth and intimacy rather than worldly possessions
God blessed my friend,
Materialism has many bad influences override parents. Not a few parents, in this day and age, that is always focused on the criteria of the abundance of things, balance position, social status and descent alone in choosing a mate prospective sons and daughters. Kufu problem '(equal, equivalent) only measured based on the material and property only. While religious considerations do not receive serious attention. Islamic religion is very concerned KAFA-ah or similarity, equivalence or equivalent in terms of per-marriage. Given the similarities between the two spouses, the effort to establish and build an Islamic household -insya God-will be realized. However KAFA-ah in Islam is only measured by the quality of faith and piety as well as a person's character, not measured by social status, descent and others. Allah 'Azza wa Jalla saw the same degree of a person, whether Arabs or non-Arabs, poor or rich. There is no difference in the degree of both but taqwanya degrees. Allah Almighty says:
يا أيها الناس إنا خلقناكم من ذكر وأنثى وجعلناكم شعوبا وقبائل لتعارفوا إن أكرمكم عند الله أتقاكم إن الله عليم خبير
"
O people! Indeed, We have created you from a male and a female, and then we made you nations and tribes that ye may know each other. Truly, the most honored of you in the sight of Allah is the most pious. Indeed, Allah is Knowing, Mahateliti. "[Al-Hujuraat: 13]
For those who sekufu ', then there is no obstacle for them to marry each other. Compulsory for parents, boys and girls are still oriented to the things that are materialistic and maintain customs to leave and return to Al-Qur'an and authentic Sunnah of the Prophet, according to the words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
تنكح المرأة لأربع: لمالها ولحسبها ولجمالها ولدينها, فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك.
"A woman married for four things; from his property, offspring, her beauty, and her religion. Then let you select a devout religious woman (to-Islamannya), surely you will be lucky. "[2]
This hadith explains that in general a person marries a woman for four things. And the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam choose a strong advocate for his religion, ie, choosing which shalihah because women shalihah jewelry is the best of the world, in order to survive the world and the hereafter.
However, if there is a man who chose a beautiful woman, or having abundant wealth, or because of other reasons, but the lack of religion, then may I marry the man? The scholars allow it and the marriage remains valid.
God describes in His Word:
الخبيثات للخبيثين والخبيثون للخبيثات والطيبات للطيبين والطيبون للطيبات
"These women are vile for vile men, and vile men for vile women (too). While both women for good men and good men for good women (too) ... "[An-Nur: 26]
very unfortunate, the fact that we see a lot of heads of families who neglect it. I have in mind is how to meet the needs of their families matter so that they sink into the race for the world, while the spiritual needs are not included in the count. Their wives and children just crammed with treasures of the world, have fun with it, but at the same time they do not understand about religion.
At the very least, if a husband can not teach his family, probably because of his work or the limitations of his knowledge, he obtained his teaching religion to children, or to invite her to the house of servants, providing religious books, tapes of lectures / taklim according to his ability, and encourages families to read / hear it.
get religious instruction is one of the rights that should be fulfilled by the wife and the husband, including the right of a woman to be accomplished guardian. However, in practice, this right is often not fulfilled properly. So aptly remarks ash-Shaykh Muqbil bin Hadi al-Wadi'i rahimahullah which divides people into three types in the care of women:
First: Those who let go of women just as they wish, let it go away without a mahram, mingled in schools and colleges, in the workplace such as office and in the hospital. Thus resulting in the destruction of the state of the Muslims.
Second: Those women wasted without taklim (teaching), let it like cattle, so he does not know the slightest obligation to him that God had implanted. Women like this will drop him to slander and penyelisihan to the commandments of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, even going to ruin his family.
Third: Those who give religious instruction for women in accordance with the contents of the Qur'an and the Sunnah, for carrying out the command of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala:
"O ye who believe, take care of your selves and your families from the fire whose fuel is men and stones.? (At-Tahrim: 6)
Look at the family of Al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar Al-'Asqalani rahimahullah. He was so eager to spread knowledge in the midst of his family and relatives as spirits convey knowledge to others. Preoccupy himself in da'wah outside the home and in the writing of science is not neglected taklim him to give to his family. From this was born the educational outcomes of his family famous people in science, especially the science of hadith, such as: his sister Sittir Rakb Bintu 'Ali ibn Muhammad ibn Muhammad ibn Hajar al-'Asqalani, his wife Bintu Uns Al-Qadi Abdul Karim bin Karimuddin' Abd al-'Aziz, his daughter Zain Khatun, Farhah, Fatima,' Aliyah, and Rabi`ah. (Nisa Inayatun bil Haditsin Nabawi, p. 126-127)
See also how Sa'id Ibn Musayyab rahimahullah raising and caring for her daughter in the crib science when married to her husband says he finds that his wife is the most memorized the Book of Allah, the most mengilmuinya, and most know about the rights of the husband. (Al-Hilyah, 2 / 167-168, As-Siyar, 4 / 233-234)
Similarly, the scientific story of the daughter of Al-Imam Malik rahimahullah. With the guidance of his father, he can memorize Al-Muwatta 'by Imam. If there are students of Al-Imam Malik recited Al-Muwatta 'in front of him, his daughter was standing behind the door listening to the readings. Until when there is an error in the reading he motioned to his father by knocking on the door. So her father (al-Imam Malik) was said to the reader: "Repeat your reading because there is a mistake ?. (Inayatun Nisa ', p. 121)
And because the Messenger of Allaah 'alaihi wasallam said:
"Each of you is the leader and each of you will be asked / held liable about what they lead.? (Saheeh, HR. Al-Bukhari no. 893 and Muslim no. 1829)
(Nashihati lin Nisa ', Umm' Abdillah Al-Wadi`iyyah, p. 7-8)
"Be with you in a beautiful shade of science"
Sewangi roses that bloom in the morning ...
The sun rays warm as 0530 ...
-Clear springs in the Himalayas ...
White as snow in the North Pole ...
Semerdu Pipit bird chirp when singing ..
As soft and pure as a baby when it is born ...
Sharp winds that waft in the night ...
A smile as sweet as my friends to me ...
Making complex Borobudur ...
As great as those who have the Holy Love to the opposite sex ...
Love as harmless as parents to their children ...
Jihad noble people ...
As beautiful as Heaven Paradise ...
want to meet with people who have properties such as the ....
whose face is shaded by light wudhunya,
soft voice as much istiqfarnnya ..
starry-eyed stare depanya future ...
who is HE? hopefully he is your best friend, the best friend who blessed God ..
O Allah, I submit and knees to you ... I acknowledge your power in Ufuk western and eastern ... Ufuk. !!!, Extremely easy for thee to destroy me ..., I leave this body and soul to you ... God. !!! without a fight ....
O Allah, Ya Rahman, Ya Raheem owners life and my death, I'm actually asking Thee embarrassed because it was too much begged that I pray to You ... But if I may ask, I beg of Thee O Allah, panjangkanlah my age, give me the opportunity to become an adult , be happy for the people that I love, to see them smile, happy to be able to see the glow on their faces, and to be a role model for them ...
O Allah, if You long destined my age and my age is the best length for me, set me to always be on the road so that I can reach lurusMu keridhoanMu by sticking to syari'atmu, istiqomah run your order, stay away from all laranganMu, subject to ketentuanMu and sincere at each determination from you ...
O Allah, make my life as well as possible so that life is not in vain rest of my life gone by ...
O Allah, if it has run out of time that you give me, make my life the good end of it so that I can go to You and treated all my desire to meet with You and Your Messenger ...
Aamiin Rabbal Alaamiin yaa ..
O God, our pertemukanlah with someone whose heart always leans to you, who love you more than anything, the moral good, and love to his family ..
but before you arrange a meeting us at her, then our Lead GOD, in order to become a better person, before the person who would lead well, teach us how memantaskan themselves to a noble person in front of you, O God our kepadamulah just beg and surrender our kepadamulah ,
Lead us, O God always for the good of our world and the hereafter
"With you in the shade science"
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